Learning to let go of frustration


According to the Oxford English dictionary, frustration can be defined as:

  1. The feeling of being upset or annoyed as a result of being unable to change or achieve something.
  2. The prevention of the progress, success, or fulfilment of something.


Reasons you may feel overly frustrated right now

Universally, we are all still waiting for life to return to normal. We have all been through it during this pandemic. We have had to put plans and desires on hold for such instances as seeing loved ones, group meetups, special celebrations like weddings and baby showers, travelling, career progression in some cases and freely engaging with others, I’m sure you can add to the list. Bless us, we have had to suppress so many of our emotions and desires to get by. It’s incidentally a totally unnatural way of being, and we are now supposed to just get back out into the world now that many restrictions have been lifted, yet of course, this can feel somewhat abnormal and frustrating to us also. But did you know being frustrated can affect our wellbeing if we don’t find a way to resolve it? Frustration creates tension and friction within the body, not to mention a build-up of stress on our adrenal glands. So, this blog is about how we can learn to notice our frustrations, give them a big hug, then let them go through using the BNHC platform, so we can move forward and start to feel that warm fuzzy enthusiasm for life again!

Signs of Frustration

Frustration can manifest itself in many different ways. It may not be obvious to you that you are even frustrated. So here are some of the typical responses of frustration:

  • Losing your temper
  • Incessant bodily movement, such as tapping fingers constantly and perpetual sighing
  • Giving up, leaving
  • Feeling sad or anxious
  • Lacking self-confidence
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Turning to drugs and alcohol
  • Bodily abuse, starving oneself, or irregular eating habits

(according to health and medical website www.webmd.com)


Types of frustration

There are internal and external frustrations. For instance, an internal frustration could be a disappointment in one’s performance and external frustration could be cueing for hours in traffic. To help you understand your frustrations better, maybe you could finish the following sentences:

My internal frustrations at this moment are……

My external frustrations at this moment are……



What does the body say?

Long-term frustration can be very hard and stressful on the body. It is said that if the frustration isn’t resolved it can turn into feelings of anger, resentment and negative self-talk.

The role anger plays on the body can be explained in the below extract from “Psychology Today” blog:

“Anger creates energy surges, and when energy surges occur, chemicals such as adrenaline enter your bloodstream, your heart rate increases, your blood flow increases, and your muscles tense. Losing your temper affects your cardiac health. It can shorten your life when it is sustained. Anger also compromises your immune system.”

The role resentment plays on the body can be explained in the below extract from the “Don’t Judge Your life” blog:

Dr Carsten Wrosch, of Concordia University in Montreal, explains that resentment and bitterness interfere with our body’s hormonal systems. This causes a majorly damaging effect through our entire body, much like extreme stress. Dr Wrosch also has noted that these negative emotions interfere with our immune system as well causing us to be susceptible to illness and disease. The negativity can even cause heart problems, according to Dr Charles Raison of the University of Arizona Health Sciences.”


To the role of negative self-talk plays on the body can be explained in the below extract from the “Shape” blog:

“It plays a role in prolonging our stress response, and when stress remains chronically elevated over time, it exerts wear and tears on the body. That can result in negative conditions like sleep problems, cardiovascular disease, and even certain cancers. What’s interesting is the science showing how chatter, in the form of chronic stress, can affect our DNA. Emerging evidence suggests that it plays a role in turning on genes that are involved in inflammation and turning off genes that fight viruses. Not only that, but chronic stress can also affect how fast our telomeres, the protective caps at the end of our chromosomes, start to shorten, which is associated with cellular ageing.”

Ways to let Go


Sound baths

A sound bath is where you close down your eyes and connect in with a variety of sounds and vibrations from various instruments over a period of time. Those most commonly used in the practice are Tibetan singing bowls, Crystal healing bowls, rain sticks, and various ancient bells/chimes which are pitched at various frequencies. Sound therapy helps to raise our vibrations and let go of anything that is blocking us, which could include frustration. You can read more about a study that was undertaken that showcases the positive effect and change on people’s mood and wellbeing through sound baths, here

You can also book in your sound bath session here



Somatic healing

This type of approach to clearing out unresolved emotions, including trauma , is focused on bodily sensation awareness techniques. It is said to heal on a cellular level by bringing deep awareness to our physical feelings, to uncover and relieve mental turmoil. You can learn more about Somatic healing by joining our somatic and mindfulness workshop in September with Charlotte Watts. Book your spot here





Getting the heartbeat up can produce serotonin (feel-good hormone) response, so if you know, for instance, Ashtanga yoga is something that will push you and get your heartbeat racing– try it maybe two times a week. If you know a beginner’s class will push you – try that! Do what will get the blood pumping for you.

Doing something you haven’t done before makes you think, so there isn’t time for negative self-talk, anger, or resentment. You can but only be in the moment. So why not try something you have never done before to push your mind into the present! I’ve started Pilates recently – that’s much more challenging for me than yoga and all I can do to get through is focus!!


Byline: Crystal is a yoga teacher and writer. She is Yoga Alliance certified in Yin, Hatha, Vinyasa, Swing/aerial and myofascial release, meditation, pranayama and Kundalini. She is also a qualified NLP practitioner and journalist. She loves cats, eco-friendly focuses and tea in all forms.You can contact her here: crystal.f.skinner@gmail.com

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